A Stranger's Mind

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What men mean when they talk about their “crazy” ex-girlfriend is often that she was someone who cried a lot, or texted too often, or had an eating disorder, or wanted too much/too little sex, or generally felt anything beyond the realm of emotionally undemanding agreement. That does not make these women crazy. That makes those women human beings, who have flaws, and emotional weak spots. However, deciding that any behavior that he does not like must be insane– well, that does make a man a jerk.

And when men do this on a regular basis, remember that, if you are a woman, you are not the exception. You are not so cool and fabulous and levelheaded that they will totally get where you are coming from when you show emotions other than “pleasant agreement.”

When men say “most women are crazy, but not you, you’re so cool” the subtext is not, “I love you, be the mother to my children.” The subtext is “do not step out of line, here.” If you get close enough to the men who say things like this, eventually, you will do something that they do not find pleasant. They will decide you are crazy, because this is something they have already decided about women in general.

gawge0usx:

perrida:

tracieeganmorrissey:

I put a lot of effort and attention to detail into our costumes this year. I knitted her sweater and got her vintage Nikes. People in the neighborhood didn’t get it and just thought I was a lazy parent.

This is the best thing I have seen today omg. Perfect costumes are perfect.

The people in your neighborhood are uncultured swines this is amazing^

gawge0usx:

perrida:

tracieeganmorrissey:

I put a lot of effort and attention to detail into our costumes this year. I knitted her sweater and got her vintage Nikes. People in the neighborhood didn’t get it and just thought I was a lazy parent.

This is the best thing I have seen today omg. Perfect costumes are perfect.

The people in your neighborhood are uncultured swines this is amazing^

(via thechocolatebrigade)

The abuser tends to see his partner as less intelligent, less competent, less logical, and even less sensitive than he is. He will tell me, for example, that she isn’t the compassionate person he is. He often has difficulty conceiving of her as a human being. This tendency in abusers is known as objectification or depersonalization. Most abusers verbally attack their partners in disgusting, revolting ways. They reach for the words that they know are most disturbing to women, such as bitch, whore, cunt, often preceded by the word fat. These words assault her humanity, reducing her to an animal, a nonliving object, or a degraded sexual body part. The partners of my clients tell me that these disgusting words carry a force and an ugliness that feel like violence. Through those carefully chosen epithets—and my clients sometimes admit that they use the most degrading words they can think of—abusers make their partners feel both debased and unsafe

Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft (via thechocolatebrigade)

Let me be a stereotypical freshman with my twinkle lights on my dorm bed

Let me be a stereotypical freshman with my twinkle lights on my dorm bed

inimicaldolly:

drmichaelaquinn:

  • a party where everyone dresses up in fancy dresses, and you eat novelty chicken nuggets, fruit snacks, and drink capri suns and watch cartoons 
  • a party where everyone wears pajamas,and you drink red wine and have fancy finger foods and watch old Hollywood movies 

Im down. 

WHY ARENT THESE A THING

(via thechocolatebrigade)

LDR

I don’t know what the hell I’m doing with my relationship or where it’ll go. And yet here I am giving advice to a girl in the same situation. And arguing with a boy who thinks that every high school relationship is pointless and about sex.

heylookitsliz:

elizabeth-antoinette:

ikenbot:

freeselfdefense:

Rape Escape

  • Easy and very effective
  • Requires nothing but your body
  • Includes attack

Very useful to know, pass and share please.

Worth watching

I don’t mean to impose a personal favour on you guys, but I really would like to ask that everyone who follows me reblog this. 

I don’t think I made it very clear but last month I was sexually assaulted by someone who I thought was my friend (I don’t want to talk about it don’t ask), and it’s… really fucked with my head. 

Had I known this a month ago I would have been able to get away

So, essentially, I’m really pleading with you to reblog this so everyone who follows you doesn’t get stuck in the same position I was with no way out. 

I mean again I don’t want the point of this to be my sob story or whatever but if you could reblog this it would seriously mean a lot 

(Source: , via fromcarouseltohair)

kristenmastora7:

gallium-knight:

Here’s a test:

I’m holding a baby in one hand and a petri dish holding a fetus in the other.

I’m going to drop one. You chose which.

If you really truly believe a fetus is the same thing as a baby, it should be impossible for you to decide. You should have to flip a coin, that’s how impossible the decision should be.

Shot in the dark, you saved the baby.

Because you’re aware there’s a difference.

Now admit it

woah.

(Source: the-gallium-knight, via fromcarouseltohair)

colamania:

spazztastikim:

comebackxkid:

dynastylnoire:

insidehishead:

some of the most sensitive areas of the female body

look at all the regions that are not titties and vagina guys
porn has lied to you. there are other places you can touch that sensitive and pleasurable. 

Oh yeah because I’m just gonna rub her eyes until a she’s horny

Kiss her there you walnut! Use tenderness! Hold her face gently and stroke her eyelids with your thumb and then kiss them! Run your hands down to her neck when you do! THINK!!! Lordie, you have a lot to learn that TOUCH gives more than making her “horny” you’ll drive her nuts doing gentle stuff! It’s trust! It’s care! It’s sensitivity! *smacks your forehead* You want her to be numb in complete ecstasy! I know this shit and I’m ASEXUAL! 


Reblogging purely for the beautiful use of the word “walnut” as an insult.

colamania:

spazztastikim:

comebackxkid:

dynastylnoire:

insidehishead:

some of the most sensitive areas of the female body

look at all the regions that are not titties and vagina guys

porn has lied to you. there are other places you can touch that sensitive and pleasurable. 

Oh yeah because I’m just gonna rub her eyes until a she’s horny

Kiss her there you walnut! Use tenderness! Hold her face gently and stroke her eyelids with your thumb and then kiss them! Run your hands down to her neck when you do! THINK!!! Lordie, you have a lot to learn that TOUCH gives more than making her “horny” you’ll drive her nuts doing gentle stuff! It’s trust! It’s care! It’s sensitivity! *smacks your forehead* You want her to be numb in complete ecstasy! I know this shit and I’m ASEXUAL! 

Reblogging purely for the beautiful use of the word “walnut” as an insult.

(Source: biencorrect, via veronicavalor)